The Overthinker

Will Bruns on substack

 Let’s talk about those of us who feel everything too deeply.

The over-thinkers.

The ones whose hearts are wired to notice every shift in tone, every delayed response.

The ones who read entire stories in a single word text.

Who replay conversations looking for hidden meanings.

Who love so carefully, because they’re terrified of getting it wrong.

Our happiness often hangs by the thread of someone else’s mood.

Our peace, dependent on another’s response.

Our souls don’t choose to be this way.

Our hearts were just made beautifully sensitive.

Our minds, with extra awareness.

What looks like neediness on the outside is really just our fears wearing a different mask.

Fear of loss.

Fear of abandonment.

Fear of hurt.

Fear of giving too much and still ending up alone.

But here’s the beautiful truth about these deep-feeling souls…

We love with an intensity that most people can’t understand.

We remember the little things.

Notice the unsaid things.

Feel the forgotten things.

We just need someone patient enough to understand that our extra care comes from extra scars.

Someone who knows that reassurance isn’t neediness.

Rather it’s helping us quiet a mind that’s been hurt before.

Because someone once taught us that love leaves when things get hard.

And we’re still learning that not everyone walks away.

So don’t worry—your deep feelings aren’t a flaw.

They are a reflection of your capacity to love.

To care.

To understand in a way that most people can’t.

A reflection of the lens through which you see world.

Be encouraged - there are people out there who will see the worth of your heart and cherish it.

Not run from it.

You don’t have to change yourself to be loved.

The right people will stay—not because you beg them to.

But because they recognize the beauty in a heart that feels so deeply even if it is scared.