There are two kinds of people in the world: Diminishers and Illuminators. Diminishers approach a person with categories and labels, with ‘I’m right and superior’. Practicing illumination is demonstrating genuine care, prioritizing the relationship. “It’s a gaze that that radiates respect….that every person is unique and unrepeatable. It’s suspending judgment with tenderness, receptivity, active curiosity, affection, generosity, and seeing the whole person.
We each see situations with different perspectives. An interior designer walks into a room and sees things different than someone who has been trained as a security specialist. We do not see things as they are but as we are. We can each be transformed to have an entirely different view of life.
“I’m going to engage with you. Looking at a person is different from looking at a thing because a person is looking back at you. I’m going to get to know you at the same time you’re going to get to know me. Quality conversations is the essence of illuminating relationships. “
The greatest thing a person does is to take the lessons of life, the hard knocks of life, the surprises of life, and the mundane realities of life and refine their own consciousness so that they can gradually come to see the world with more understanding, more Wesdom, more humanity, and more grace. Page 70
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